To Be Known Well
By Cathie Ostapchuk
A recent statistic reports that Gen Z spends an average of 7.7 hours online every day. That’s nearly one-third of their lives spent in a space where connection is instant—but being truly known is rare.
The truth is, it’s not just Gen Z. Many of us—leaders, mentors, women of faith—feel the same pull. I sense it in myself: the tension between wanting to be well known and yet wanting to control how I’m known. I long for people to see me, to understand the work I do, to recognize the heart behind it… but only from a distance. Safely, through a screen.
But God didn’t design us for digital applause or surface-level connection. He created us for real relationship—authentic, embodied, soul-level knowing. In Psalm 139, David writes, “You have searched me, Lord, and you know me.” That kind of knowing is intimate, honest, unfiltered. It doesn’t demand performance—it invites presence.
Yet we live in a culture that constantly measures worth by visibility, productivity, and performance. Even spiritual formation can become another item on the to-do list: read, journal, pray, post. We strive to appear faithful, wise, strong. And in doing so, we often worship the false god of performance rather than resting in the love of the God who already knows us fully.
This is the quiet crisis many women leaders face: we want to be well known, but we fear being found out. We want to be seen for our achievements, but not necessarily our humanity. We crave belonging, but we hide our need behind accomplishment.
But here’s the freedom: the One who knows you most deeply is also the One who loves you most completely. You don’t have to curate your story or manage your image before Him. He sees the unseen work, the small faithfulness, the tears behind the screen—and He calls it beautiful.
That’s why we’re creating Whatever Is True, a curated, boutique gathering for women who want to step away from performance and return to presence. It’s a day designed to help you find yourself again—to be whole, to be known well, and to be filled again from the Well that never runs dry.
Come join us.
Let’s silence the noise, rediscover who we are in Christ, and learn what it means to lead from authenticity, not appearance—from wholeness, not hustle.
Because you were never meant to be known by metrics or likes.
You were made to be known well.